Alyssa Rower


Alyssa is the founding partner of Rower LLC and has been practicing law in New York City since 2005 and matrimonial and family law exclusively since 2008. New York Super Lawyers has named her a Rising Star in family law every year since 2011 and she was recently named one of "18 Women to Watch in 2018" by Brown Brothers Harriman.   

Prior to founding Rower LLC, Alyssa spent eight years at the prestigious matrimonial firm Aronson Mayefsky & Sloan, LLP, first as an associate and then as a partner. Alyssa began her career in private practice as a commercial litigator with Milbank, Tweed, Hadley & McCloy, LLP, where she gained invaluable trial and arbitration experience. Alyssa's commitment to family law began at Milbank, where she led pro bono cases on a variety of family law matters, receiving the Milbank Pro Bono Achievement Award in 2006 and the Her Justice Commitment to Justice Award in 2008. Prior to working in private practice, Alyssa was a law clerk for the Honorable Ruggero J. Aldisert of the Third Circuit Court of Appeals in Santa Barbara, California.

Alyssa's first priority is providing unsurpassed service to her clients and compassionately guiding them through a difficult time. Alyssa prides herself on reaching creative out-of-court settlements for her clients whenever possible and is tireless in her determination to achieve their goals. As one client put it: "Tenacity, brilliance and a heart of gold…yes, I am referring to Alyssa. Alyssa is my secret weapon who was relentless in trying to make a deal with my husband. She has the patience of a saint and had to deal with [my husband's] unethical ways on a day-to-day basis. Early in the morning, late at night and on the weekends, Alyssa was always there to answer my e-mails and calls." 

If it is necessary to take a case to court, Alyssa is a skilled and experienced litigator, whom one client described as a "powerful and dangerous army sniper in the courtroom." She has tried numerous financial and custody cases in the Supreme and Family Courts of Manhattan and Brooklyn and has successfully argued in the Appellate Division First Department. As one expert witness remarked about Alyssa's trial skills: "Alyssa's organization and conceptualization of the case was superb. Her ability to handle herself during direct and cross was excellent. Her interpersonal skills — with me, the client, the judge, and witnesses — were also excellent. I was very, very impressed with her skill set."  

Alyssa received a BA in psychology, cum laude, from Dartmouth College in 2001. She received her JD, cum laude, from Duke University School of Law in 2004. During law school, Alyssa served as editor-in-chief of the Alaska Law Review and the interscholastic coordinator of the Duke Law Moot Court Board.

Outside of her professional activities, Alyssa is a committed volunteer. She is the co-head fundraiser for her class for the Dartmouth College Fund and is a member of the Dartmouth College Fund Committee, which provides alumni leadership to support the College’s highest priorities in annual unrestricted giving, She serves on the New Leadership Board for the Legal Aid Society and is also a mentor for the TEAK Fellowship, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping talented New York City students from low-income families gain admission to top high schools and colleges.

Alyssa lives in Brooklyn with her husband and their two children.  





2018 "The Impact of #MeToo: On the Job, in the Home, and on Campus" | Women of Dartmouth, New York

2018 "Complex Divorce" |

2016 "Orders of Protection" | Faculty Member at the New York State Bar Association Family Court Trial Institute

2016 "Women in Transition" | Alliance Bernstein

2015 “Smart Women Plan Ahead” | Norton Rose Fulbright, LLP

2014 "How to Hire the Right Divorce Lawyer" |

2014 “Ethics in Family Court Practice” | New York State Bar Association

2013 “Which Way to Go: Litigation, Mediation, or Collaborative?” |

2012 “The Ins and Outs of New York’’s Temporary Maintenance Statute” |

2012 “The Marriage Equality Act: Issues and Considerations for Same-Sex Couples” | Cadwalader, Wickersham & Taft, LLP | Dartmouth Lawyer’s Association | Skadden, Arps, Slate, Meagher & Flom, LLP | Brooklyn Bar Association | Cleary, Gottlieb, Steen & Hamilton, LLP | Milbank, Tweed, Hadley & McCloy, LLP

2009 "Immigration Remedies for Immigrant Children" | The Bar Association of the City of New York


2018 "Frozen eggs, student loans and other unexpected reasons to get a prenup" | Market Watch

2018 "Prenups, Matrimony Law and Divorce. Oh My!?" | The Big Wedding Planning Podcast

2018 "What happens to your business when a relationship ends?" | Interview with Claire Wasserman for “Ladies Talk”

2018 "Navigating Finances In Your Relationship" | I Do Podcast

2018 "How Long Does A Divorce Take?" | Women's Health

2018 "Stay Smart About Your Money After Marriage" | Kiplinger

2018 "18 Women to Watch in 2018" | Brown Brothers Harriman

2018 “An Honest Talk About Marriage, Divorce, And Pre-Nups… with Alyssa Rower" | Self Made Man

2018 “Trump’s Tax Law Could Make Divorces More Bitter” | Bloomberg Politics, Fortune, and Investment News

2012 "The Real Estate Planning Crisis Isn't About Taxes" written by Deborah Jacobs | Forbes


What is the prenuptial agreement process? 
Alyssa explains the importance of prenuptial agreements and the negotiation process. 

How is the divorce process different for business owners?  
Alyssa explains the special considerations effecting business owners going through a divorce. 


2018 "New York Domestic Relations Law and Advisory Schedules" | It’s Over Easy

2018 "How to Strengthen Your Marriage with a Prenup" | Insider

2018 “Those Who Are Most In Need Of A Prenup May Surprise You” | Forbes

2016 “Which Divorce Process is Right for You?” with Ani Mason |

2016 "Who Should Be On My Divorce Team" with Ani Mason |

2014 "Ask an Expert: How do I Pay a Lawyer's Retainer Fee if my Spouse Controls the Money?" |

2014 "Ask an Expert: Filing for Divorce" |

2013 "Ask an Expert: Expectations" |

2013 "Ask an Expert: Prenuptial Agreements" |

2012 "Temporary Maintenance Status in Practice" | New York Law Journal, Vol. 247 No. 84

2012 "Postjudgment Relief: Which Crises or Crossroads Constitute a Substantial Change of Circumstances" (American Bar Association: Family Advocate, Vol. 34, No. 3)

2011 "Determining Whether 'No-Fault' Law Allows Trials When Parties Disagree" | New York Law Journal, Vol. 246, No. 41

2010 "What You Can and Can't Control in the Divorce Process" | Huffington Post

2010 "How to Choose a Divorce Lawyer" | Huffington Post

2009 "Setting Valuation Dates for Marital Property In Global Economic Crisis" | New York Law Journal, Vol. 242 No. 73

2007 "Preparation Matters When Videotaping Depositions" | National Law Journal

2004 "The Legality of Polygamy: Using the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment" | Family Law Quarterly Vol. 38, No. 3

2003 "Alaska's DNA Database: The Statute, Its Problems, and Proposed Solutions" | Alaska Law Review, Vol 20

2003 "Winning Brief: California v. Moore" | Whittier J. Child & Family Advocacy, Vol. 3